I’m, basically, rubbish…

I’ve now been here for two months. I keep going to write posts, going to talk about things that I want to say, but I can never seem to find the words or the motivation. I do love to write, but at times writing about all this feels a bit forced. Fortunately I’m going to do a separate post shortly which will, hopefully be a bit more interesting… At the very least I’ll have more to say!

Anyway… here is the 800 words that I managed to bash out last time I tried to write a blog post… about a month ago…

“After a month here, I guess it’s safe to say that it’s more normal. It still feels weird to think that I’m not at home, and I won’t be for quite a while still. It still feels weird knowing that I can’t just go and see my friends, or go to the pub and bump into 5 different people that I know from 5 different places. That said, my routine is now firmly set in my head, and so that, at least, is normal. My day to day life is normal, it’s normal within the domestic world that I live, even if it isn’t normal in the holistic view of my life.
I started writing this update several times, but I’ve never quite managed to follow through – perhaps thinking that it’s too boring, or that I have nothing new to say – both would probably be correct. It seems like there is very little to do, when, as I’ve said, each day is basically the same!
“So, it has been about a week since last time, and I guess that a fair amount has happened in that time, although, having written that, I cannot think of much that’s particularly exciting or noteworthy! That said, every day brings its own little adventure, a new game, a new technique or just a new feeling.
UPDATE: it’s been about 2 weeks since last time, but I got side-tracked with doing basically nothing.
I went shopping last Sunday. Not my finest moment. I needed to leave the house, to get some fresh air, to not be in the place where I eat, sleep and work. So I did the 3 minute walk to the supermarket. Following the sugar craving which came with my new family’s desire to eat salad at least once a day, I may or may not have gone a bit wild with the snack food. I have since learnt that I’d actually rather have no snack food because then I’ll not have the temptation to eat it! Haha, we live and learn. Probably better learnt sooner rather than later! Even so, Kinder Bueno are so moreish and so much cheaper than in England. I shall be strong (er.) Anyhow, my drinks shelf is now stocked – with Ice tea granules and tea bags – yay me :)”

2 weeks later and I had my first cup of tea from my drinks shelf yesterday… I still haven’t opened the ice tea! On the plus side I haven’t continued to buy rubbish food from the supermarket, just chewing gum – of which my mother still disapproves, from 1200 miles away…
I have made a friend in the supermarket, by accident, because of my inability to speak Italian. Honestly, I’ve embarrassed myself so many times going through checkouts that I’ve settles for the self-checkout now. Unsurprisingly I’ve had issues there too.
I’ve done a little bit of exploring recently, not much but a bit! I visited a seaside town called Cervia, which is about a 20 minute drive. A beautiful historic centre, unfortunately the entire sea front is privately owned by tourist enterprises, so when we walked to the coast on the grey Saturday afternoon, all we could see was buildings. That’s actually a slight lie – I caught a glimpse of some sand in between some unsightly metal poles; what a delight.
Anyway, I visited with a friend of the family, she’s 23 and studying towards a Masters in foreign languages, one of those languages was not English, but thanks to the quality of mainland Europe’s language education she can speak excellent English anyway!
We had a nice hot chocolate in a café in the main square, although they don’t actually call them cafés, they’re ‘bars’, which, to you and me, is a place to go, socialise, and get drunk. While socialising may be one of the key aspects of a bar, it’s more to do with serving breakfasts and apperitives- something we don’t really do in England. Going out for breakfast is, nowadays, more of an acceptable activity, although I wouldn’t say it’s the ‘done’ thing. Upon doing a survey of my friends, the majority didn’t actually know what an aperitif was, although one guessed it was some sort of drama thing, and another got it spot on – due to a sneaky look on google. Here it is common to go for an aperitif, in fact I’ve been invited on several thanks to the wonderful world of tinder – I hate tinder.
Due to the fact that I know no-one here it was suggested to me to use tinder for it’s original, non-creepy, purpose – of meeting new and like-minded people! I should say that I made it abundantly clear on my profile that that was all I wanted, but it didn’t stop some of the more persistent members of tinder!”

Pretty sure I had more to say about the horrors of tinder, as well as other things, but I lost that train of thought when I got constantly distracted by Skyping home…

Thinking of Leaving, Leaving and Arriving

The prospect of leaving again has been daunting. I’m now on day 2 of my next big adventure away from home and it’s struggling to feel like a reality. I’ve come to Italy for 6 months to be an au pair with a, so far, lovely family of Mum, Dad and 2 children. When I first started preparing for this adventure, months ago now, I had no idea where I would be going, who I would be with and I was so excited. I had planned to go to France, actually, which would have been logical considering my plan is to study French and Philosophy in Bristol come September. I started planning this even before I’d gone to Zanzibar. At that point, going to Zanzibar was the biggest and most terrifying thing that I could possibly do. To past-me, nothing I would do after that could possibly be as scary. Current-me disagrees.

These last few weeks of anticipation have been… not so fun, insofar as I’ve been putting off thinking about going away because I couldn’t cope with the augmenting fear about leaving everything behind, again. I know, logically, that I’ve done this before- left home, left family, left friends- but I don’t remember last time being so hard. Perhaps it was because I knew I would be with a group of people my own age (or thereabouts,) maybe because I would have to have friendships through necessity, or perhaps it was because I knew I needed that distance from home to allow myself to reset, like factory resetting a phone and starting fresh. Honestly, for all I know, this trip will be the same for me, and that could be a great thing! Except, this time round I no longer feel like I need that. My last two months of being at home have been some of the best ones of my life, especially with the contrast of the previous year, despite getting up at 5.15 to go to work, and functioning on 5 or less hours sleep a night, despite having to be more independent than ever, despite the fact that a lot of my friends were gone, were at university, despite all of that, it’s been great, like really great. And that’s what I’ve been struggling to leave behind. My last two days at home were the ones when I really let myself think about leaving, and started saying goodbye. That was hard. I burst into tears on an evening out as I was about to leave, yay. In fact, it was so hard that I failed to properly say some of the most important goodbyes. To those people, who probably know who they are, I’ll really really miss you, skype me, message me, call me, visit me.

Enough with the depressing stuff about leaving! Nothing so far has given me any reason to doubt my decision to come, and I’m positively hopeful that nothing will. My new family have been truly wonderful, Mama and Babbo have been so welcoming, and the 2 children are absolutely charming! There’s a young boy called Fil and a girl called Eli, and Fil babbles along in English like any other young child would, when I’m around, and Eli may as well be English, that’s how good her English is! She read 50 pages of Pippi Longstocking this morning and has a bookshelf full of Roald Dahl. I was greeted really enthusiastically at the airport by all bar Eli, they knew who I was through a few photos of me, as well as the fact that I had the biggest suitcase out of everyone on my flight, embarrassing but understandable, it’s not like I could have lived for 6 months on hand-luggage! We did a very brief tour of Bologna, where the airport was, stopping at many many churches, my mother would be immensely jealous, I’m sure, and a café where I had the nicest hot chocolate that I have ever had. Starbucks and Costa have been spoiled for me. Never again will I be able to have a hot chocolate that isn’t actually made of chocolate! Mama and I dragged Fil around town by the hand, except for when he ran off to chase pigeons (every 5 minutes), and he would skate down the marble or stone floored porticos.

 

There’s something remarkably charming about young children, it might be their innocence and joy at the simple things, or perhaps it is the complete lack of understanding of what a secret is! By the time we’d reached Bologna town centre I already knew that there was a Kinder stocking waiting for me back in Cesena, from La Befana and that we were having pizza for dinner as a treat! La Befana is an Italian tradition that happens to coincide with La Epifania, the Epiphany. Whilst not really celebrated in England, many other countries do actual celebrate the arrival of the 3 kings. Anyhow, somehow those two traditions have merged, and from what I’ve gathered, La Befana is a witch that flies over the houses and has broken shoes with no soles, although no one sees her feet (that titbit was from Fil, not sure if it’s important) and she is loved by all children as she delivers a stocking of presents to all children! Really good children get sweets and presents and all things nice, and bad children get coal, I think children in between get fruit and nuts, or that’s just what these kids got because it was so soon after Christmas! Does this sound familiar? Now, is Befana the same as our jolly Saint Nick, Santa? No, because he comes too! These lucky little ones get two stockings; one on Christmas morning and one 12 days later! When we walked around Bologna, we could see street stalls filled with little ornaments of the Befana, and lots of decorations! It’s a really sweet tradition, I can’t actually think of anything that is celebrated so strongly in England that wouldn’t be celebrated elsewhere… Apparently Carnavale is also a really big thing too, England, unlike the rest of the world (once again) doesn’t really celebrate Shrove Tuesday, or, as most people know it, Pancake Day. You’d be expected to eat some pancakes somewhere along the way, but I was shown some costumes and things here where shops are already preparing for the celebrations!

We did have pizza for dinner last night, and it was great, no one can say that Italians don’t know how to do pizza, no one ever would though, let’s be honest here. That being said, I happened to mention at dinner that I can make pizza and, in fact, regularly do with my dad and they were really very impressed! They were especially impressed because they’d never made pizza before and imagined that it must be fairly difficult. I told this to my dad last night via skype and received a kind of ‘you must be joking’ look in return. I know, that’s how I felt too. It was just perplexing, not because I was living in the stereotype that all Italians make and eat Italian food, I’m certain that a large proportion of people in England can’t make fish and chips, but Babbo makes his own bread, it’s not a great leap from bread to a pizza base!

Anyway, on the traditional food front, we went out for breakfast today before exploring my new hometown, Cesena, and I had a lovely chocolate and hazelnut pastry at a family favourite café just off the main market square! We also had lunch with the grandparents, who live in an independent apartment on the 2nd floor of my new home, I’m in the loft floor and the family are on the ground. We had a gorgeous home-made lasagne, yes Italy, with red wine, in Italy?! I know, shocking, and salad, bread, lemon chicken and crisps, followed by panetonne, ?!, and dessert wine… You get the gist; I was treated to a lovely traditional meal, including two of the locally made wines, one of which is possibly in the top 5 most famous Italian wines… Shame I can’t remember the name. I’m sure I’ll know all the wines well enough in 6 months’ time!

Cesena itself is beautiful, there are a few more stunning churches, one of which I attended this morning with the family. It’s a lot easier to translate Italian, considering I know no Italian, when you know what the Italian is supposed to say – this was discovered whilst reading the mass sheet and easily translating simple responsorial prayers which are the same in English… Other bits are more difficult, but that’s largely because I don’t have the entire mass-book committed to memory! Anyway, Cesena is a very beautiful town, filled with old cobbled roman roads, and the occasional more modern marble tiled streets. It’s also home to the oldest public library in Europe, La Biblioteca Malatestiana. I haven’t had a chance to visit it yet, but Mama is going to take me on my first afternoon off (Wednesday.)

Anyhow, I still haven’t unpacked, bar a dreamcatcher hanging above my bed, and my laptop on my desk, I’ve not done very much, really, so I’ve not very much to share. There are some photos, but they’re on Mama’s camera, so I haven’t had a chance to upload them yet, and I haven’t really taken any of my own. I look forward to the time when I can write a blog post about the new normal, how waking up here every morning feels like waking up at home.